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As Australians tentatively prod the early weeks of 2021 to see if the year’s open to reinstating past freedoms, the shadowy shocks of 2020 grumble threateningly just below the surface of our days. Is COVID-19 going to surge forward with renewed energy after a quick kip? Can we capture new mutations in their infancy, weed …
John Donne’s ‘A Valediction: forbidding mourning’ concerns a sea voyage and uses the image of a circle as an antidote to the abyss of loss and separation. He pictures the invisible but precious bonds which link carer and cared-for, lover and beloved in an attachment relationship as slender threads of gold. Jeremy Holmes Long before …
These are strange days, so here are some great mental health resources to support you, calm you, and give you a shot of inspiration. 1.Calm App Calm is a very beautiful app with gorgeous nature pictures and sounds. You can just listen to a river or a storm if you want to, and I …
Here are 5 powerful books about love and therapy, to help you feel less alone if you’re going through therapy. It can feel like you’re the only person who ever felt such strong attachment and need for their therapist, but you’re not. Reading about others’ experiences of therapy can help you understand the yearning, love …
I always thought the idea of Tough Love was a joke. A dinosaur of an idea. Mildly sadistic even. But I’ll come back to that. Let’s talk dogs for a minute because they represent for me, pure emotion. And it’s dawned on me that the place where tough love can be be necessary, is in …
Last night, satisfied but really tired, I got to rest after a few days intense work. Helping people find acceptance and self-compassion, is a big part of my job as a therapist. Many people are stuck in pain about the past, or anxiety about the future. Compassion and insight open the door to freedom. I …
Ultimately, love is the cure for dissatisfaction. I don’t mean love of another person, but love of your own life. But how do we get there from feeling lost and unhappy with the way things are? Understanding Chronic Dissatisfaction (CD), and accepting that it’s a common experience, is the first part of transforming it into …
Understanding Dissatisfaction can help you harness it as a force for good in your life. This is the fifth installment in the Chronic Dissatisfaction series. Start at the first installment. Chronic Dissatisfaction (CD) is that restless feeling of yearning, wishing for something more but not even knowing what it is…CD can be an ever-present hum in …
I thought that..This is the fourth installment in the Chronic Dissatisfaction Series – click here to go back and start with the first article in the series. Chronic Dissatisfaction (CD) is that feeling of yearning, wishing for something more but not even knowing what it is…CD can be an ever-present hum in the background of …
Let me fall if I must. The one I become will catch me. Baal Shev Tom From my twenties, I recall this image. I was standing on the edge of a crevasse, not just a cliff, a dark, vast jagged wound in the ground, an abyss where I couldn’t see the bottom. Around it was …