self-criticism

Self-Criticism Lady & External Validation Girl

  I was looking forward to working on a piece I’d left unfinished in favour of other things for too long. However, when my butt hit the seat I found myself struggling to flow despite desire. I sat staring. I’d found a window of time, so why couldn’t I seize the moment? Two noisy, wrestling …

Parenting After Separation: Empty Nest Too Soon

For the first few years of your life it was as if you were a pure extension of myself. I could barely breathe when I was separated from you. I made sure it almost never happened. As did you. From your birth, you were so much more important to me, than me. It was both …

How to rewire your brain

Dealing with Childhood Wounds in Adulthood

Here’s a piece I contributed to MindBodyGreen. It’s about dealing with childhood wounds so they stop ruling your world in the present. To go deeper, grab a copy of my book Lovelands on Amazon or Audible. Enjoy! https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/how-to-develop-a-secure-attachment-style

love versus depression

Love Vs Depression

So Pete left, and there I was – another failed relationship, another week without an acting job, my bank account dwindling almost as fast as my frail self-esteem. As weeks dragged by, I felt increasingly out of control and I was fast sinking into depression. I was strangely overcome with grief about losing Pete although …

Lovelands by Debra Campbell

Navigating Your Lovelands on ABC

Lovelands by Debra Campbell is about navigating your Lovelands, the land of your relationships and inner longings. Author Dr Debra Campbell spoke with Amanda Smith on Life Matters on the ABC. Debra spoke of her own relationship challenges, about love and about writing the Amazon best-selling Lovelands. It’s central theme is becoming your own hero …

On Writing Lovelands

On Writing Lovelands

  Lovelands is about embracing your demons; being the hero of your own life, through courage, self-awareness and love.   Lovelands is part memoir, part self-help for any soul who wants to more deeply understand emotional health and freedom, and how to create the life and relationship they desire. It’s about finding your way through challenges that …

Step-parenting

The Non-Negotiables of Step-Parenting

Step-parenting is tricky, not least because it means blending two cultures, cultures which can have as many hidden, nuanced differences and preferences, as obvious ones. They may have different communication styles, different ideas about humour, making rules, how to run the home, and different expectations about parent-child interactions and sibling relationships.To make things trickier, the subtleties and …

grief

Grief Is Not An Emotion

Grief is not an emotion. Grief is a time of feeling every emotion. It’s a time of feeling blinded to everything else; seared raw by the white light of the beloved soul’s final flare. We are caught unawares, no matter how expected, in the flash, then the fallout from the ending of a personal epoch. …

live your spirituality

Spirituality is Useless Unless You Live It

Anna (not her real name) came to see me because she felt ‘stuck’ and she’d been intrigued by a talk I gave on creating soulful relationships. Anna was in her 60s and mother to a ‘forty-something’ daughter, Lily (again, not her real name). Lily was a successful small business owner, a wife and mother of …

Balancing action and acceptance

Balancing Action and Acceptance

Do you think that anticipating some big change or shift is actually scarier than the change itself? I do. I think anticipation and fantasising about potential outcomes is far scarier than being in the moment of a big change, or settling into new circumstances once the change has come. Our imagination is a beautiful thing, …